Baby Facts

This is for all you young women having babies.  These are some interesting facts I learned.

Day 1   Fertilization!  All human chromosomes are present and  a unique human life begins.

Day 22   The baby's heart begins to beat with the child's own blood - often a different type than the mother's.

Week 6   At this stage, brain waves can be detected.  The child's mouth and lips are present and fingers are forming.

Week 8   At this stage, every organ is in place.  Bones and unique fingerprints begin to form.

Week 17  The baby can now have dream (REM) sleep.

This was taken from the National Right To Life Organization.  I am not on a bandstand against abortion (even though I am against it), but I just thought those facts were so interesting for you gals since you are all starting new families.  Those facts show the awesomeness of God.  It is truly a miracle!

For those of you that already have a baby, you finally understand the statement that there is no way possible for you to understand a mother's love until you are a mother.  So, so true isn't it!  It is a love so deep.  The same kind of love our heavenly Father has for us.  Amazing, if you can start to comprehend that.

For those of you that will be starting families, enjoy your time with your spouse while you have the time.  Babies definitely change your lifestyle!  They make you realize what is REALLY important in life.  And, after the baby is here, still make time for your spouse.  Babies are the best thing ever to help you to NOT be set in your ways.

For those of you expecting now, get organized, babies won't break (under normal wear and tear) and they don't need 100 outfits for the first year of life!  They outgrow those cute little outfits so fast.  Night gowns, t-shirts and onesies are the more practical things to have.  ha  (Please send this statement to me when Matt and Whitney start their family. :)  )

By the way, the picture to start this off is Whitney's new nephew.  Isn't he just adorable!   I have lot's of "motherly" advice, but I will wait for another day to send it to you.

Have a Blessed day!

Thank yous and Compliments

I get my best thoughts for blogging when I am getting ready in the mornings.  Today's thoughts were about appreciating our spouses.  We take them for granted and they do so much for us.  It is wonderful to have the security they give to our lives.  When you get to our age, you realize that it takes both the husband and the wife to have a complete home.  He changes the air condition filters and I wash clothes.  He checks to see if the faucets are wrapped for the big freeze and I make the chili.  He brings in the wood for the fire and I keep it loaded during the day so we could stay warm.  He stresses over whether the tires have been rotated and the oil changed and I decorate the house.  We each have our rolls in life.  I know it takes years to get into these wonderful ruts so if the road is rocky some days, work through it.  It will happen and it is wonderful once you realize it has happened.
I want to challenge you - compliment or thank your spouse every day for 30 days.  Put a sticky note on your bath room mirror that says Don't Forget or something that will remind you to do this, but not let him know what you are doing.  It is hard to make good habits! ha  Keep a journal of what you say and how he responds.  This doesn't have to be fancy.....notebook paper is fine.  The first few days when you say something complimentary or thank him for something he may not respond in a very nice way or the way you think he should.  He may even wonder what you are up to.  Don't let the secret out of the bag.  I predict that by the end of the month, his responses may be different and he may even start complimenting and thanking you more.  It will be interesting to go back and read how the 30 days went and maybe, just maybe, you will have started a new habit that will do nothing but enrich your marriage.
Men have a whole different thinking process than we do.  They stress over providing for their families and we stress over the day to day little things.  They see the big picture, we see the minute by minute picture.  They see things black and white and we see things with our hearts. They do worry about whether you are happy or not, even if you don't see it.  And, we all know there are at least 3-7 days that we are not a delight to live with! :)  So, start a new habit; keep a record of it and then report back to us how it is going.  At least get one friend that will commit to do this with you and report to each other how this is working out. Don't talk negative.  Pray about it.  Commit to make your home a positive place to grow up in.  The Lord will bless.
Have a Blessed day!

If there is food, they will come

One thing that is hard on young couples, especially young couples with children, is to find friends to do things with.  I remember when Whitney moved to Carlisle, a town of 2300, there was nothing really to do.  She was new to the town and had no real friends there.  I suggested she start a dinner club and invite 4-6 couples to come.  She could do the meat, drinks and bread and let each couple bring the salad, veggies and desserts.  I have never known anyone to turn down a meal and sure enough, it was that way for her dinner club.  You have to realize all their friends in Carlisle are farmers so the men work until dark or later.  I think they had 6 couples invited.  The women came early and the men came when they were done working - in their work clothes if they wanted to.  All it takes to get this started is someone with initiative.  Someone to organize it.  Someone to start it.  Everyone wants friends and needs to socialize sometime.  It takes effort but it is really worth it.  Entertaining is soooo much fun, if you ever get in the habit of doing it!  It doesn't have to cost a lot.  Sandwiches and chips, or hot dogs - the main thing is the fellowship and the deep friendships that will evolve.
Gary and I love to entertain.  Five years ago we started having our annual chili lunch at the barn.  It was to say thanks to our subcontractors and suppliers.  Well, it has grown to where we had around 200 people last year.  It started out men only and now the wives are getting in on the fun.  Last year the weather was awful and Gary thought we wouldn't have many to show, but he was wrong!  If you feed people, they will come.  Below are a few pictures from the 2007 lunch.  One includes my Dad that went to meet the Lord this past year.  Lots of memories from this chili lunch.  Start your traditions now.  They are so rewarding.  Entertaining doesn't have to be on this large scale, but watch out! When you start with the little entertaining it could grow! ha

Have a Blessed day!

BBQ Rules

Gary was the one responsible for this blog.  He has read some of my derogatory man remarks.  It is safe for him to read them now that we have been married 30 years and the fact that he says it is cheaper to keep me rather than get rid of me.  I don't advise you young gals to let your guys read all the stuff that goes on in blogs.  They are still young and might not overlook what you say or read!  In my case tho, he is now giving me ideas for post.  What a husband! 

Let me preface the next paragraph by saying we did not write this - it came across as a forward on email.  I can't give credit since I don't have a source, but it is OH SO TRUE and I do need to share it with you.  I have never posted a forwarded email and probably never will again, but this one I just couldn't pass up.  Enjoy!

BBQ RULES

We are about to enter the BBQ season. Therefore it is important to refresh your memory on the etiquette of this sublime outdoor cooking activity.

When a man volunteers to BBQ the following chain of events is put into motion:

(1) The woman buys the food.

(2) The woman makes the salad, prepares the vegetables, and makes dessert.

(3) The woman prepares the meat for cooking, places it on a tray along with the necessary cooking utensils and sauces, and takes it to the man who is lounging beside the grill..

(4) The woman remains outside the compulsory three meter exclusion zone where the exuberance of testosterone and other manly bonding activities can take place without the interference of the woman.

Here comes the important part:

(5) THE MAN PLACES THE MEAT ON THE GRILL.

More routine...

(6) The woman goes inside to organize the plates and cutlery.

(7) The woman comes out to tell the man that the meat is looking great. He thanks her and asks if she will bring him something to drink while he flips the meat

Important again:

(8) THE MAN TAKES THE MEAT OFF THE GRILL AND HANDS IT TO THE WOMAN.

More routine...

(9) The woman prepares the plates, salad, bread, utensils, napkins, sauces, and brings them to the table.

(10) After eating, the woman clears the table and does the dishes..

And most important of all:

(11) Everyone PRAISES the MAN and THANKS HIM for his cooking efforts.

(12) The man asks the woman how she enjoyed ' her night off ' and, upon seeing her annoyed reaction, concludes that there's just no pleasing some women!

Have a Blessed day and tell your man how much you appreciate him.

Spend some, Save some

Today's topic is money.  Something we all need to spend less of and something we all need more of....or so we think.  First off, let me say, NEVER lie to your husband when he asks you questions about money.  Actually, never lie to your husband or your children about anything!  I guess that could be another whole blog.  Lying will never work - period. 

When you are starting out in life, especially, there seem to be many "needs" when furnishing a house, clothing your children, etc.  This is something that a lot of husbands just don't understand.  They want a beautiful wife and children and a home to be proud of, but they don't understand the concept that it takes a little extra money to accomplish that.  It is your job to search the world over and find the best value on things that you "need".  Don't be extravagant and don't put yourself in the poor house by buying things when you can't afford them.  Have self control.  We all have more "things" than we really need and I think this is really evident this time of year.  If you can't pay cash for these extras in life, don't buy them.  The only thing worth going into debt for is a house and m-a-y-b-e a car.  Gary and I decided early in our marriage that we wouldn't charge anything that didn't go up in value - even cars.  Make yourself car payments until you have enough to pay cash for one - oh that is another whole blog idea! ha  Back to my topic......

If you live with a husband that keeps up with the money spent and he asks you how much was that ("that" being whatever you bought and might feel guilty about), there are more ways than one to answer the question.  What is his hobby?  What does he like to spend money on?  Think about it and then say, "If you don't want me asking how much it costs everytime you play golf (or whatever the hobby is), then I wouldn't always ask me what I spend when I go shopping."  That might help relieve some of the questioning gals.  Sometimes I do think it is good to let them know what things in life really cost tho.  Gary knows that building a house costs a lot of money, but everything else should be less expensive.  Fortunately for me, I pay the bills, I handle the money and I am conservative with it.  He rarely asks what anything cost anymore.  They have to learn to trust you and that takes time.  Give them a reason to trust you.  And, I know this may shock some of you, but they can have really good advice sometimes!  Women think with their hearts and men think with their heads.  Sometimes that is what we need.....a logical viewpoint.  Another thing to remember, if you are in doubt on whether you need something or not, go home, sleep on it.  If you still think you can't live without it and you can pay cash for it, then you might want to buy it.  So many things that seem important today are not important tomorrow.  If the item is sold out when you go back, say a little prayer and thank the Lord for not allowing you to spend money unwisely. 

An older friend of mine always told me, "Spend some, save some."  No better advice.
Have a Blessed day,

NEVER, EVER, EVER!

I am wondering if you gals know what the above pictures actually are.  In order, from left to right, they are a weed eater, a power blower and an edger.  That is all you want to know about these three items.  Period.

There is a thing that will happen with all men, if you aren't careful.  Whatever you learn to use, to operate or to handle, they will let you.  Unless you totally love yard work, I suggest you NEVER, EVER, EVER learn to even hold one of these things, let alone learn how to use one proficiently!  Men will have you out in the yard doing a man's job.  Tell your husband you are scared you will cut your foot off or any excuse not to use one of these guy things! 

When you are newly married, you want to try and impress your husband by learning to do everything to keep your house looking great.  DO NOT go there!  After the new wears off  and the honeymoon is over, you will be stuck with the yard work for the rest of your life.  I learned this 30 years ago (our 30th wedding anniversary is January 3rd).  I suggested that I could mow the yard.  Back then, it was a small yard with a push mower.  It was exercise and I really didn't mind helping out on occasion.  Well, 30 years later I am riding a Kubota tractor with a 6' mower and it takes me about 5 hours a week to get the "yard" mowed.  Fortunately, I realized after volunteering to mow, that I should NEVER, EVER, EVER learn to use anything else that was related to yard work!  If I did, he would have me using it from then on!

So, act like a lady, a sissy or whatever you must - but don't learn to use guy toys.  Leave that to the guys and you handle the inside of the house, the laundry, the kids, the cooking and all those other things a good wife would do! ha  Leave the outside to the hubby. 

Have a Blessed day (in the cool house)!

One Simple Act

This is one of the best books I have read in a long time.  Simple reading but profound advice.  It is a book that one chapter a day would be wonderful reading, but once you start reading it, you may not can put it down.  It only has 207 pages and would be a wonderful way to start your New Year.  If only everyone in our world could follow these concepts, life would be so much better.  To give you a feel for what is in store when you read, I am including the Ten Rules for Happier Living.  The author states that she wished she knew who penned these rules, but I will give her all the credit for them.  If you have never read her books, she writes about knitting groups and the things that go on in the groups lives.  Cute books and so enjoyable.  This book is different though and it helps you understand why her other books are so wholesome to read.  Here they are -

Ten Rules for Happier Living

1.    Give something away - no strings attached.

2.    Do a kindness - and forget it.

3.    Spend a few minutes with the aged - their experience is priceless guidance.

4.    Look intently into the face of a baby - and marvel.

5.    Laugh often - it's life's lubricant.

6.    Give thanks - a thousand times a day is not enough.

7.    Pray - or you will lose the way.

8.    Work - with vim and vigor.

9.    Plan as though you'll live forever - because you will.

10.  Live as though you'll die tomorrow - because you will, on some tomorrow.

You might want to post these on your refrigerator to remind you to do "One Simple Act" each day.

Love you, hope you have a wonderful New Year and a Blessed day!